What is anger?
|Not hust end of relationship, enmity stated|
|What an easy way to get things done!!!|
Anger can make you ill
Anger has survival benefits, and forms part of our “fight or flight” brain response to a perceived threat or harm. Anger can be constructive or destructive.
Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.
When we are angry the body releases 'stress hormones', such as 'adrenaline', 'noradrenaline' and 'cortisol'. The heart rate, blood pressure, body temperature and breathing rate increase. Regular episodes of anger can eventually make people ill.
Out-of-control anger hurts your physical health, mental health, career and relationship with others. This will lead you to distress unless managed.
General conceptions and reality of Anger and 'Anger management'Conception: If you hold your anger, it will make you unhealthy and the best is to vent it out.
Reality: Though conquering and neglecting anger is not a healthy practice, venting out is not a better option. Anger could not be let out belligerently to get rid of blown. 'Philippics and bursts' will aggravate and increase your ill effects of anger.
Conception: Anger can never be controlled and none can help it.
Reality: You can never control the situation you are in like we discussed already in stress management but you can control your expressions when you are angry. It is you have the choice of responding to people in 'anger situation'. Don't raise your voice with anger but improve quality of your argument without aggressive facial expressions.
Conception: 'Showing anger' and 'being aggressive' will gain me some respect among people around me.
Reality: People will become afraid of you and will maintain distance that is misunderstood as respect. Humbleness and respecting others go a long way and earn you the real respect.
Conception: Managing anger is oppressing it.
Reality: It is to develop healthier practices to manage disturbances and upsets. Anger management is knowing fundamental feelings when confused, depressed or disturbed and manage them. Suppressing your anger or completely avoiding are not the objectives but the goal is to express in a productive way or not destructive way at least.
Try these:Take a 'time out' . Count 10 or 15 before reacting or leave the situation altogether.
Think Carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you will
Don't hold a 'Grudge'. Forgive the other person and this is the best of anything you do ever. I is
really unrealistic to expect others to behave exactly as you want. Even we can't do many times.
Use 'I' statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance,
say " I am upset you didn't help with the housework this evening" instead of You should have
helped with the housework". Doing otherwise will likely upset the person and escalate the